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I fell in love with this chair from the moment I saw it in the furniture store that was going out of business.   It had my favorite new color in it and it was definitely different.  I patiently waited, because I wanted the best price.   I anxiously checked back from time to time, hoping it wasn’t gone.  And near the end of the sale, it was five dollars less than I had offered them!

It screamed my name even though from a design standpoint it didn’t match my sofa and love seat, which is floral and much more traditional.   Yet somehow, I knew I had to have it and didn’t care that it wasn’t perfect, and my husband thought I was a bit crazy.

As we  say good-bye to 2015 and look toward the new year, I can’t help but think about life.  Sometimes we have dreams that don’t match the reality of what happens during a year.

There are times in our lives, when no matter how hard we try, we just aren’t perfect.  In fact, we can be a hot mess! And life can be a hot mess too.

In our A-F society and culture, we often grade ourselves by comparing ourselves to others.   We listen much more closely to what others might think or the appearance we are putting out there.   If we are not careful, we can forget who we are and what we love.   We can stop being heart centered people and get caught up in our image driven, competitive culture in our drive for the “perfect life” and ultimate pinnacle of success and being the top of the heap.

Truth be told, I have always been driven toward perfection and it has paralyzed me sometimes.  Looking back as a child, my parents unintentionally created an atmosphere of affirmation and recognition totally based on performance.   And somehow, I never felt “good” enough.

I love winning!   Who doesn’t?   But maybe my idea about what winning is has been a little skewed.

I like being in control!  I am not a detail person in the sense of boring, minutia, but I like to control the outcome of what I am doing.   But sometimes, just maybe the outcome is none of my business and no reflection on who I am.

I learned something from this chair.   It’s ok to do something just because you love it, whether it makes sense or not.   It’s ok to be a little mismatched, to be different, to let what you love shine through.  It’s ok to not live by someone else’s expectation of who you are and what you should be….(in fact, most of those expectations are a figment of our imagination….not many people really are that engaged).   It’s ok to live in the moment without a worry about tomorrow.  Sometimes, it’s ok to live on impulse!  To do something just because you love it or want to.  It’s ok to make mistakes and make messes, just like it’s ok as a child to play in the dirt or be wildly imaginative and creative.   It’s ok to not be a cookie cutter image of someone you admire or disagree with them.

And it’s important to give yourself a resting place.   A place that you love and feel secure, peaceful, joyful, present, and 100% YOU.

My dear friend and mentor recently said to me, “I determined early on that I was going to set a routine in my life, where I first did what brought me peace and joy and love and all the things that were important to my well-being, even if it meant I had to live in an apartment the rest of my life.”   Guess what?  She isn’t living in an apartment.   She is one of the most successful women I know.   Why?

Because she get’s the lesson of the chair.   Life is full of beauty.   We are created uniquely and perfectly designed to live in our own skin.   We can’t help and truly love others if we haven’t taken care of ourselves first.

So my 2016 word is “Effortless.”   It doesn’t mean I don’t have to try or work, or that some magic wand will appear and make all my dreams come true.   It does mean this is a year when I understand the value of being me…..100% authentically me…..messes and all.  Where I understand that sitting in a beautiful chair and resting, reading, planning, writing, or anything else is ok and valuable.   That renewing my strength is important and that relinquishing control of the outcome brings me power to move forward.

This chair is both my resting place and my launching pad into more than I ever asked or thought!   2016 is going to be an awesome year.   What’s your word for 2016?

 

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It’s not popular today to speak in terms of  “good and evil”.  Having grown up in a religious setting that tended to breed condemnation rather than confidence in the work of Christ in our hearts, I can understand it.

Nevertheless, we can’t ignore either word.  There is obviously both good and evil in the world.  Everywhere we look there is are hard things.  Poverty, sexual slavery, broken families, crime, bigotry, injustice, wars, and so on.   On the other hand, we see good in those work to make a difference or rise above their own negative circumstances or a raw hand that was dealt them.

What determines whether someone is good or evil?  Luke 6:43-45 makes it clear that it is the kind of fruit one bears.  It makes it clear the fruit we see comes from the condition of one’s heart.

Christ’s sacrificed life made it possible to live in goodness.  Salvation is for body, soul, and spirit.  Reunited or back in agreement with God, it is now up to us to plant and tend to the vineyard of our hearts, that we might produce GOOD FRUIT.

Andy Andrews, in his book The Traveler’s Gift, talks about one of the seven principles of success–I have a decided heart.  If we choose to follow Christ, then we must also decide to become like Him.

Luke 6:40 says “everyone who is perfectly trained will be like his teacher.” A decided heart is one that refuses to let things unlike Christ remain in their heart.

One can’t have bitterness and say they are following Christ.  Nor can we dwell in unforgiveness, a vengeful spirit, self-centeredness, pride, apathy, rebellion, greed, etc.    Those attitudes will choke out the good fruit and fill our hearts with unhealthy habits and desires.

We also can’t live in the land of unbelief, a place that denies what God says about us or the priniciples and promises of God.   It is impossible to please God without faith!  Not just faith in his redemption, but walking it out by being who He has called us to be and producing good fruit.

Luke 6:45 says”For out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.”  Faith is a matter of confession and profession.  What you say matched by what you do  indicates the faith you have.    It is not enough to say “Lord, Lord”.   We must have faith that is rooted deep in our hearts vineyard.

That kind of faith, fills our heart with the qualities of God.  Love, forgiveness, peace, long-suffering, goodness, meekness, temperance.  It is other focused.  It is about blessing, not cursing.  It is about us rising up to our position in Christ’s kingdom and living from a decided heart!

It is work because faith without works is dead.  It’s not about performance for the sake of performance but it is about truly accepting the work of Christ and letting Him transform our hearts into a vineyard…the planting of the Lord.  It takes self-examination under the light of the Holy Spirit.  It takes a decision followed by committment, that we will continue to add the character of God to our lives, letting go of the things that hold us back or produce rotten fruit.

I am challenged today to inspect my fruit and pull out by God’s grace the things that produce bad fruit.  I am determined to put into my heart the seed that will create a bountiful harvest.

How about you?  What do you need to pull out or put into your heart to produce greater fruit?

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I’m hoping as I share God’s word for me this morning it will encourage you in your 2012 journey.

As I continued to pray about some scripture for the year, I read Jereimiah 1:6-12 I got excited.  Here’s what I found for my life.

1.  2012 is  a year for  no excuses.  (Verse 6,7)  We can do whatever God asks of us.  He is in charge!

2.  2012 is a year for no fear.  (verse 8) .  Whatever we come face to face with God is with us and will deliver us.   He has promised!

3.  2012 is a year of speaking His words.  (verse 9)  God Himself has spoken and all we have to do is open our mouths (and hearts) to let Him fill us with what He is sending His word to do.

4.  2012 is a year of appointment!   Verse 10 tells how.  Oversight of the nations and kingdoms.    You may not think you have that oversight but you do.  You have kingdoms and nations within your own life’s circle.  Your family, community, yourself, your church, your finances, etc.   It’s time to rise up and take note and exercise the authority you’ve been given.

Verse 10 g0es on to say….. we have been appointed to Root Out and Pull Down.  2012 is a year to dig deep and get rid of the roots that are entangling us and keeping us from our destinies.  It is a time to pull down the obstacles that are standing in our path.

2012 is a time to Destroy and Overthrow.  It’s time to recognize the enemy and go on the attack to remove his lies from our life.  We are in charge not him.  What we choose to believe is up to us.  What we choose to follow is up to us.  We do not have to succumb to his influence….emotionally, physically, financially, spiritually.   God is greater!   If  we want more of what God has for us then we must stand and declare NO MORE to the enemy!

2012 is a year to build and plant.  Having cleared out the old places,  we can start on level ground.  It’s a time to welcome the dreams and begin to put them into place.  God will establish the work of our hands.

Sounds like a full appointment to me!

5.  2012 is a the year of the almond tree branch.  (verse 11,12)  When asked what he saw, Jeremiah answered, “the branch or shoot of an almond tree.”  This branch was the emblem of alertness and activity, blossoming in late winter.    The Lord commended him for what He said, promising that, “I AM alert and active, watching over My word to perform it.”

For many of us, 2011 was difficult.  We’ve needed hope.  We’ve needed faith.  We’ve needed love.  And we’ve needed answers!  We’ve done all we could to hang on to God’s promises.

As we enter 2012, unsure about what the year holds, we have this assurance.  God is Alert (well aware of our lives and His plans).  God is Active (involved in every little itty-bitty detail).  God is Watching  (over every word He has spoken to see that it is performed). 

Regardless of what the year brings, 2012 is a year of Overcoming! How do I know?  Because He has appointed us to oversight of everything that is holding us back.   We have been granted authority based on His own words and have His promise to perform it!   Therefore…..

If God be for us, who can be against us? 

Be strong and courageous in the Lord!  Watch the walls fall down!   AMEN!  (So Be It!)

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It’s common in Christian circles to hear that we are God’s favorites or that we are walking under the favor of God.  In my experience, often times that is equated with some special treatment or blessing that God pours out on our lives.  For me, that message always carried with it some sort of preferential tone that led me to believe when things weren’t always pretty I had somehow slipped from that place of favor.

The truth is that message needs a little perspective.

The Greek word for favor is charis (khar’ese).  According to Strong’s Concordance it refers to graciousness of manner or act, specifically the divine influence on the heart and its reflection in life.

The message and the work in Mary, told in  Luke 1:28,30 was one of divine favor.  Her heart was influenced by the message she heard and the supernatural messenger who delivered it.  It was no ordinary word and it carried with it the choice of an obedient heart.

Mary’s choice to submit herself to the plan of God and walk in obedience, carried with it a blessing of favor.  It wasn’t a choice without cost.  There was much to consider and some pain involved, not just at Jesus birth, but along the journey of raising him, and through His death on the cross.

The same is true for us.  Our destinies begin with the influence of God and Holy Spirit on our hearts.  The message is often beyond our own capabilities or thoughts.  It often seems impossible. Along with the unspeakable joy, there is pain.

Yet as we choose to accept the mission and walk in obedience, God’s favor shines through each step.  It is a blessing not based on our own ability.  It doesn’t carry a “You are my favorite child of the family,” message. Instead it is one where our hearts are changed over and we enter a season of growth, and result producing influence in our world.  We move from underachievers to overcomers!

God’s favor has nothing to do with our status in life.  It has to do with the divine influence we allow Him to have in our life.  Rich or poor, a citizen of America or some third world country, educated or not, the message is the same. It is a call to all of mankind.

Your story is important to the world.  You have a destiny.  God has a plan. You are my creation and I want to create things through you. 

The questions are the same too.  Will you hear the message?  Will you move beyond the things you don’t understand?  Will you accept and allow His plan for you?

When you answer yes and follow-up with your actions, the flavor of God’s favor is beyond what you could imagine!

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Life is  a journey.  There are so many ups and downs and along the way. If we are open, we will hear and see messages that lead us to our destiny in God.

I believe there are messages and messengers all around us.  God communicates with us in so many ways.  Through His word, people, circumstances, dreams, visions, the world around us….the list is really endless.

There are those extraordinary moments that the message comes in some awe-inspiring form.   Think of Moses and the burning bush, Gideon, Esther, just to name a few.

In Mary’s case, God sent the message by special delivery.  Gabriel, the highest angel, whose name means “Strength of God” brought the news.

There’s more to come as we break that message down into bite size pieces but for now, the point is:  When we are being called to birth something God delivers the message of impossible things through a place of strength. 

He will inspire, confirm, and move you to laughter or tears over the things that you are called to birth or influence. He will bring strength for the journey.

His message is unique to you and for you.  Others can do what you are called to do but I truly believe no one can do it like you can.

Mary was chosen uniquely to birth the Messiah.  It wasn’t an easy calling, but it came with a place of blessing and favor.  Yours won’t be easy either but the satisfaction and adventure of  living it out is worth it.

Take some time this season to reflect on your life so far.  What has God spoken to you through the peaks and valleys of your journey?  What are your places of strength? In what ways have you felt God speaking to you in the past?

Don’t be afraid to just sit in stillness.  Set aside time to sit with a paper and pen nearby. Close your eyes,  open yourself, breathe deeply, and invite His presence.  As thoughts come to mind, write them down.  Maybe you’ll see a picture or remember a scripture, something you read, or just an impression.

What do you hear?

Whether you are reaching for your calling, or dealing with obstacles or tragedy, God is the master of turning the impossible to possible.  Nothing is impossible with Him.

With the message comes a choice to have faith and believe, or succumb to the idea that you are insignificant, weak, and unable to make a difference.

Which do you choose?

 

 

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Considering Possibilities

I’m sure, like any young woman, Mary was hopeful and excited about the possibilities of her life with her soon to be husband, Joseph.  Can’t help but wonder what it must have been like when God’s chosen purpose for her became clear.

Face to face with His angel, hearing the words of being chosen to conceive the long-awaited Messiah, must have been both thrilling and scary!  So much responsibility, so many miracles needed, so much reputation to be lost, so many things to consider.  Overwhelmed would be the word of the day, I think!

Before Mary would actually become pregnant by the Spirit, she had to think about it all.  Her response was the key to it all.  Would she say no, denying man the miracle of a savior?  Would she risk her own reputation, her preconceived life plan, her possible loss of Joseph?

We are faced with those same questions every day in our lives.  Will we open ourselves up to what God has for us?  Will we stop caring so much about what others think and just do the right thing or be who we are?  Will we submit our will and plans for our future to God, trusting Him with it?  Will we move beyond our own understanding of what is possible for ourselves,  our kids, our spouses, ourselves, our community, our world?  Will we accept that if God says it is so, He will do the impossible?  Will we understand that His ways might look different but they are full of possibilities that change us and the world around us?

Mary had to accept that Father knows best.  She had to consider carefully what it means to open herself up to the Spirit of the Living God.  Her life was never the same and her decision impacted the world eternally.

What is facing you today?  Challenges of health, finances, family, relationships, career?  God is the God of impossibilities.  (Matthew 19:26)

What might be possible if you open your heart to the Spirit of God and let Him breath His life into the situations?

Consider you might become pregnant with the Spirit and deliver the plans of God to the world.  That no doubt would change a lot of things, wouldn’t it?

 

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It’s been quite a year.  About half way through our family entered into a season of unexpected blessing mixed with heart-wrenching tragedy.  The life-changing effects of both were unexpected.

As you may have noticed, my posts have tapered off.  I had to focus on what was at hand and until I could get it to some balance, needed to give up some things.

Today I knew I could start up again.  I can’t promise I will write every day but as God lays it on my heart I will.

Throughout the Christmas season and until the New Year, I’m going to share part of my book, Moms On Mission, Discovering Destiny.  Each post will cover the possible impossibilities of our lives, learning from the story of Jesus’ mother, Mary.

I hope you’ll join me as I share how we can apply Mary’s becoming Pregnant By The Spirit in our own lives.

For now, I’ll close with this thought.  “There are two ways to live your life.  One is as though nothing is a miracle.  The other is as though everything is a miracle.”  Albert Einstein

Brilliant man, don’t you think?

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