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I fell in love with this chair from the moment I saw it in the furniture store that was going out of business.   It had my favorite new color in it and it was definitely different.  I patiently waited, because I wanted the best price.   I anxiously checked back from time to time, hoping it wasn’t gone.  And near the end of the sale, it was five dollars less than I had offered them!

It screamed my name even though from a design standpoint it didn’t match my sofa and love seat, which is floral and much more traditional.   Yet somehow, I knew I had to have it and didn’t care that it wasn’t perfect, and my husband thought I was a bit crazy.

As we  say good-bye to 2015 and look toward the new year, I can’t help but think about life.  Sometimes we have dreams that don’t match the reality of what happens during a year.

There are times in our lives, when no matter how hard we try, we just aren’t perfect.  In fact, we can be a hot mess! And life can be a hot mess too.

In our A-F society and culture, we often grade ourselves by comparing ourselves to others.   We listen much more closely to what others might think or the appearance we are putting out there.   If we are not careful, we can forget who we are and what we love.   We can stop being heart centered people and get caught up in our image driven, competitive culture in our drive for the “perfect life” and ultimate pinnacle of success and being the top of the heap.

Truth be told, I have always been driven toward perfection and it has paralyzed me sometimes.  Looking back as a child, my parents unintentionally created an atmosphere of affirmation and recognition totally based on performance.   And somehow, I never felt “good” enough.

I love winning!   Who doesn’t?   But maybe my idea about what winning is has been a little skewed.

I like being in control!  I am not a detail person in the sense of boring, minutia, but I like to control the outcome of what I am doing.   But sometimes, just maybe the outcome is none of my business and no reflection on who I am.

I learned something from this chair.   It’s ok to do something just because you love it, whether it makes sense or not.   It’s ok to be a little mismatched, to be different, to let what you love shine through.  It’s ok to not live by someone else’s expectation of who you are and what you should be….(in fact, most of those expectations are a figment of our imagination….not many people really are that engaged).   It’s ok to live in the moment without a worry about tomorrow.  Sometimes, it’s ok to live on impulse!  To do something just because you love it or want to.  It’s ok to make mistakes and make messes, just like it’s ok as a child to play in the dirt or be wildly imaginative and creative.   It’s ok to not be a cookie cutter image of someone you admire or disagree with them.

And it’s important to give yourself a resting place.   A place that you love and feel secure, peaceful, joyful, present, and 100% YOU.

My dear friend and mentor recently said to me, “I determined early on that I was going to set a routine in my life, where I first did what brought me peace and joy and love and all the things that were important to my well-being, even if it meant I had to live in an apartment the rest of my life.”   Guess what?  She isn’t living in an apartment.   She is one of the most successful women I know.   Why?

Because she get’s the lesson of the chair.   Life is full of beauty.   We are created uniquely and perfectly designed to live in our own skin.   We can’t help and truly love others if we haven’t taken care of ourselves first.

So my 2016 word is “Effortless.”   It doesn’t mean I don’t have to try or work, or that some magic wand will appear and make all my dreams come true.   It does mean this is a year when I understand the value of being me…..100% authentically me…..messes and all.  Where I understand that sitting in a beautiful chair and resting, reading, planning, writing, or anything else is ok and valuable.   That renewing my strength is important and that relinquishing control of the outcome brings me power to move forward.

This chair is both my resting place and my launching pad into more than I ever asked or thought!   2016 is going to be an awesome year.   What’s your word for 2016?

 

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Well it has been awhile.  Sorry I have been away so long but it is been because of something important I’ve needed to focus on.  Some big changes are coming as soon as I can revamp this site.  We are going to re-launch Moms and expand our topics and our influence. We will have a team and blogs on faith, family, finances, health, your future, and making a difference in the world.  All of them, of course lead back to who we are because of our faith!     I hope as we grow you will continue to share with other moms our site and be an active participant in our mission and vision as we grow together.

In the meantime, will you allow me to share my heart and what I’ve been doing these last two years?

Thanks…funny to ask a question when no one can really answer, but I knew you would.  LOL!

I was totally surprised by God’s leading to start a business outside of my coaching business but it totally has been a blessing.  For those of you who know our story about how my husband lost his job, and the majority of retirement and suffered injustice, you’ll be happy to know that through our business God has restored all the money we lost.  Praise God!

He has also increased our sphere of influence!  We are now leaders in our marketing and business development with a biotech company, working with a revolutionary, scientific breakthrough in health, wellness and athletics.

What I am most excited about this week is about a wonderful charity called Kerry’s Castle.  My friends Dr. Rob and Patty Ward have a beautiful dream.  You can read about it on http://www.motionmatters.org under Kerry’s Castle.

Please go read about how my friends are starting this place for disabled young adults and how they hope to expand from here.

One of the blessings of our business is we get to give back and I realized recently that is one of the reasons I do and love what I do.  This week we are working with our entire team to generate income through A Case for The Castle, where Erv and I will give our portion to Kerry’s Castle.

If you have interest in information about our company and what we are doing, please contact or call me.  I’d love to share some info with you.

And if not, that’s ok.  If you like Kerry’s Castle, maybe you’ll want to give them a donation.

I’ll sign off for now.  You all know I love to make a difference for people.  When you know your purpose, everything you do is part of it as this business has been and is for us.  Funny, that we have a saying,

There is nothing better than making a living, while making a difference!

Hope that is true of you, regardless of what you do.  See ya soon.

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I’m hoping as I share God’s word for me this morning it will encourage you in your 2012 journey.

As I continued to pray about some scripture for the year, I read Jereimiah 1:6-12 I got excited.  Here’s what I found for my life.

1.  2012 is  a year for  no excuses.  (Verse 6,7)  We can do whatever God asks of us.  He is in charge!

2.  2012 is a year for no fear.  (verse 8) .  Whatever we come face to face with God is with us and will deliver us.   He has promised!

3.  2012 is a year of speaking His words.  (verse 9)  God Himself has spoken and all we have to do is open our mouths (and hearts) to let Him fill us with what He is sending His word to do.

4.  2012 is a year of appointment!   Verse 10 tells how.  Oversight of the nations and kingdoms.    You may not think you have that oversight but you do.  You have kingdoms and nations within your own life’s circle.  Your family, community, yourself, your church, your finances, etc.   It’s time to rise up and take note and exercise the authority you’ve been given.

Verse 10 g0es on to say….. we have been appointed to Root Out and Pull Down.  2012 is a year to dig deep and get rid of the roots that are entangling us and keeping us from our destinies.  It is a time to pull down the obstacles that are standing in our path.

2012 is a time to Destroy and Overthrow.  It’s time to recognize the enemy and go on the attack to remove his lies from our life.  We are in charge not him.  What we choose to believe is up to us.  What we choose to follow is up to us.  We do not have to succumb to his influence….emotionally, physically, financially, spiritually.   God is greater!   If  we want more of what God has for us then we must stand and declare NO MORE to the enemy!

2012 is a year to build and plant.  Having cleared out the old places,  we can start on level ground.  It’s a time to welcome the dreams and begin to put them into place.  God will establish the work of our hands.

Sounds like a full appointment to me!

5.  2012 is a the year of the almond tree branch.  (verse 11,12)  When asked what he saw, Jeremiah answered, “the branch or shoot of an almond tree.”  This branch was the emblem of alertness and activity, blossoming in late winter.    The Lord commended him for what He said, promising that, “I AM alert and active, watching over My word to perform it.”

For many of us, 2011 was difficult.  We’ve needed hope.  We’ve needed faith.  We’ve needed love.  And we’ve needed answers!  We’ve done all we could to hang on to God’s promises.

As we enter 2012, unsure about what the year holds, we have this assurance.  God is Alert (well aware of our lives and His plans).  God is Active (involved in every little itty-bitty detail).  God is Watching  (over every word He has spoken to see that it is performed). 

Regardless of what the year brings, 2012 is a year of Overcoming! How do I know?  Because He has appointed us to oversight of everything that is holding us back.   We have been granted authority based on His own words and have His promise to perform it!   Therefore…..

If God be for us, who can be against us? 

Be strong and courageous in the Lord!  Watch the walls fall down!   AMEN!  (So Be It!)

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It’s been quite a year.  About half way through our family entered into a season of unexpected blessing mixed with heart-wrenching tragedy.  The life-changing effects of both were unexpected.

As you may have noticed, my posts have tapered off.  I had to focus on what was at hand and until I could get it to some balance, needed to give up some things.

Today I knew I could start up again.  I can’t promise I will write every day but as God lays it on my heart I will.

Throughout the Christmas season and until the New Year, I’m going to share part of my book, Moms On Mission, Discovering Destiny.  Each post will cover the possible impossibilities of our lives, learning from the story of Jesus’ mother, Mary.

I hope you’ll join me as I share how we can apply Mary’s becoming Pregnant By The Spirit in our own lives.

For now, I’ll close with this thought.  “There are two ways to live your life.  One is as though nothing is a miracle.  The other is as though everything is a miracle.”  Albert Einstein

Brilliant man, don’t you think?

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This has been a week where I’ve been so conscious of pain.  Not so much my own, but that of those I love or the world in general.

So many stories.  Some involve injustice or hurt at the hand of others.  Some tell a tale of consequences for personal choices.  Most of them are really about both.

Regardless of the source of our pain or loss, it is clear that how we handle it will determine the power of it in our life.

I speak from experience.  I know the difference between the two.

I spent years playing the role of a victim.  I justified my own choices and the my reaction to the hurts inflicted by others by staying in that familiar space.  Poor me.  People are awful.  Why me?

When I learned to look at pain differently, my life had a seismic shift!  I am grateful for the lessons I learned.  Hopefully sharing it with you will help.

First of all, it’s God’s love that allows us to experience consequences for our own choices.  He always has our best interest at heart and His purpose is not to punish but to set us on the path that opens the door for the abundant life He promised.

II Corinthians 7:10 says, “For godly grief and the pain God is permitted to direct produce a repentance (change of mind) that leads and contributes to salvation and deliverance from evil and never brings regret…..”

When we let God direct the pain of the consequences of our choices, He will step in and change us from the inside out.  Sometimes we have to sit for awhile with the pain, contemplating our part in it before we can give it to God.

When we accept our responsibility for our choices, we can expect God’s forgiveness and His action on our behalf.  The consequences may not go away but we can look at the future with hope, knowing somehow, some time God will turn even this for good. We can walk toward that future without the shame and guilt, free to move closer to our destiny.

The same is true with the pain that is caused at the hands of others.  Betrayal of someone we love or trust is never easy.  Injustice  is a horrible thing.  Regardless of the circumstances or the story, our choice is the same.  Will we allow God to direct us and our pain for good or choose bitterness, victimhood, and unforgiveness?  Will we turn trouble into triumph, or let the pain rule our life?

This type of pain can wound and scar us so deeply.  There is no doubt that it can change the course of our outward life such as position, jobs, finances, etc.  It can also affect our emotional or physical well being.  Even the purposes and gifting that God has placed on our life can be delayed.

What we do with that pain will determine how much power we give it.  We can be forever stuck or forever free.

It’s not necessarily easy.  It takes thought, prayer, and processing.  But, the quicker we choose to ask God for help, asking Him to heal our souls and direct our footsteps, the sooner He can turn it to good. And the sooner we will experience a peace that passes understanding.

“and never brings regret: ”  The rest of that verse says, “but worldly grief (the hopeless sorrow that is characteristic of a pagan world) is deadly. (breeding and ending in death!)” (Amplified)

When we go through pain,  we have to options.  We can choose between a bitter, death producing life of victimhood or life, hope, freedom, repentance and a number of God’s wonderful gifts.

There is truly a gift in pain and grief.  It’s up to us to open it.

What can you do to open the gift today?

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As I read Hebrews 3, I find a lot to think about.  After the miracle of the parting of the Red Sea, it’s hard to believe that the children of Israel caused themselves to wander in the wilderness for 40 years!  Why?  Because they couldn’t or wouldn’t see God’s character and believe that He truly cared for them.

Sound familiar?  I have to ask myself, How many times have I not believed that God really loved me and would take care of me?  How many times have I resisted His love?

The Israelites weren’t exactly compliant people.  They wanted God to take care of them and then constantly ignored His direction for their lives. They thought their way was better and convinced themselves that they were right.

Sometimes that’s what we do in the wilderness too. When we are tested or delayed, we often make a bad choice to keep us in the wilderness.  Then, we blame God or someone else for our wilderness experience.  Even when God shows His hand of provision which includes direction for the way out, we ignore it and harden our hearts.  We treat God like He is a fairy godmother who will just wave a magic wand and fix everything for us.  Then when because of our choices we are stuck, we get mad at God and others.

The more we do that, the more we become acquainted with a hard heart and fail to acknowledge the ways of God according to verse 10.  We create our own vicious circle of wandering, rebellion, and bad outcomes.

It’s not that we don’t know what to do or how to do it in these moments, it’s that we’ve set our will ahead of God’s ways.

God was grieved by the Israelite’s  behavior.  He is grieved by ours as well.  He gives us the right to choose above all other things and won’t  prevent the consequences of our actions.

If you find yourself in a journey that leads you to wander in the wilderness season, you may want to ask yourself if you need to adjust your will.  Are you listening to God’s direction?  Do you believe He loves you and will care for you even if you are asked to do something you don’t want to do?  Where has your heart become hardened to God’s desires and ways?

The answer to those questions and taking the action to correct them, just might lead you into the promised land.

 

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I just reached an impossible goal in our home-business.  It was amazing to watch what happened after I became convicted that it could and committed to working until it did. There were so many times when it looked like it would not happen, but in the end, it came to be.

Life is like that.  Sometimes we have lofty and good goals but what is happening or what we are seeing makes us think it is impossible.

I love II Corinthians 5:7-9.  Here’s my paraphrase:  We move in life by faith.  Our lives and our behavior is regulated by our conviction and belief  about God’s relationship with us and the divine things He’s promised.  We accept those with trust and holy burning desire and therefore we don’t walk by what we see or what appears.  We have confident courage no matter where we are at.  We are constantly ambitious as we work earnestly at pleasing Him. 

One of the reasons I do this blog is because I want every person to really understand and experience a PERSONAL relationship with God.  I know the more personal that becomes the more we understand God’s love for us.  The more we understand how much God loves  the more we will do what pleases Him.

Here’s a few keys to that relationship and a life of blessing.

A. If you need a behavior change, it starts with your belief about your relationship with God.  How seriously do you take what God says?  How strongly do you believe His principles and trust that He will do what He promises?

B.  A life of faith requires burning desire.   What is more important to you–your own desires or what pleases God?  When we have a burning desire to pursue the principles  of His kingdom rather than our own way, we will experience a life of faith and blessing.

C. A life of faith requires ambition.  When I reached for my business goal, I gave it all I had.  I left every ounce of energy on the table and at the end, I was spent.  That is what ambition looks like.  What could change for you if you determined that you were going to pursue God and strive to please Him more than anything else in your life?

I dare say, we would have better marriages, parent better, experience better finances, be more satisfied in our work and play, have better relationships and a greater circle of influence if we would live a life of conviction and belief about God and His relationship with us.  We would take it seriously.  We would understand that life is sacred and we would work with everything that is in us to establish and grow His kingdom on earth and strive with all we have to please Him. 

 

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